Are you the too much woman?
Wisdom Question:
Do you judge your deepest desires as too much, your needs as too much, your way of sharing your truth as too much?
Too much for whom?
Feeling afraid to appear to be too much is so common, too many humans are afraid to be all that they are because they fear that they will be judged/shamed/pushed away/labelled/told they are not ladylike or ungentlemanly. What the ACTUAL FUCK? That’s a ticket for all flavours of suppression, pain and limitation. If limitation and suppression are on one side of the coin, flip that coin, because on the other side its freedom & contentment. I hope that this post helps you flip the coin and reclaim your freedom a little more, it’s your birthright to be happy and free to create your life however you want to create it!
We don’t need to look very far back in history to find this subliminal message woven into society: “Don't rock the boat or you will be cast out of society & you will have no value”. I want to invite you to start popping some pockets of consciousness open, to align with a different belief so you can create a different experience for yourself and the generations that come after you.
We have come a really long way, thanks to the men & women who carved the path before us. Yet we still have so much work to do as a collective. Which is why it’s important that we have real conversations with ourselves and each other, through witnessing we are then able to change old ways of being that don’t work. The conversation that you have with yourself is the most important conversation you will ever have right?!
So let’s use the gift of wisdom questions to open up this conversation and deepen our relationship with ourselves.
I’m so excited to be introducing weekly wisdom questions. I will be sending out wisdom questions like this one for you to ponder. The key is in witnessing yourself so that you can recognise where you may be in self-judgment or resistance to your right now experience. If you can witness the things that come up for you, where you get triggered and start resisting, you can begin to expand your awareness, if you are willing to release old stories the practice of wisdom questions is a super powerful tool. Especially when explored in a circle of potent women, it’s even more amplified to shift and open to greater possibilities. Massive change happens.
Ways to work with the weekly wisdom question:
*Journal
*Pray
*Meditate
*Reflect while you drive the kids to school & do other rockstar mum/partner activities
*Enquire as you express your domesticated goddess excellence
*Take it into your pleasure practice or your lovemaking
*Exercise
Whatever form your flavor of mindfulness takes, explore the crevices of you, be courageous, be real and be willing to be totally imperfect without judgment or a need to fix. Just be, witness and allow.
Then… After witnessing and allowing, commit to yourself by asking these questions…
What are you ready to move towards?
What are you letting go of?
What belief system do you need to have to propel you to move towards your commitment to yourself?
What would it take to release this belief?
How will it feel to have no resistance at all to who you want to be in all of your wildness?
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Heres the full poem
Grab a cuppa, a journal, and start Reflecting
Reflect on the things that light you up about this and why. What permission is opening in you reading this?
There she is. . . The “too much” woman.
The one who loves too hard, feels too deeply, asks too often, desires too much.
There she is taking up too much space, with her laughter, her curves, her honesty, her sexuality.
Her presence is as tall as a tree, as wide as a mountain.
Her energy occupies every crevice of the room.
Too much space she takes.
There she is causing a ruckus with her persistent wanting, too much wanting.
She desires a lot, wants everything—too much happiness, too much alone time, too much pleasure.
She’ll go through brimstone, murky river, and hellfire to get it.
She’ll risk all to quell the longings of her heart and body.
This makes her dangerous.
She is dangerous.
And there she goes, that “too much” woman, making people think too much, feel too much, swoon too much.
She with her authentic prose and a self-assuredness in the way she carries herself.
She with her belly laughs and her insatiable appetite and her proneness to fiery passion.
All eyes on her, thinking she’s hot shit.
Oh, that “too much” woman. . . too loud, too vibrant, too honest, too emotional, too smart, too intense, too pretty, too difficult, too sensitive, too wild, too intimidating, too successful, too fat, too strong, too political, too joyous, too needy—too much.
She should simmer down a bit, be taken down a couple notches.
Someone should put her back in a more respectable place.
Someone should tell her.
Here I am. . . the Too Much Woman, with my too-tender heart and my too-much emotions.
A hedonist, feminist, pleasure seeker, empath.
I want a lot—justice, sincerity, spaciousness, ease, intimacy, actualization, respect, to be seen, to be understood, your undivided attention, and all of your promises to be kept.
I’ve been called high maintenance because I want what I want and intimidating because of the space I occupy.
I’ve been called selfish because I am self-loving.
I’ve been called a witch because I know how to heal myself.
And still. . . I rise.
Still, I want and feel and ask and risk and take up space. I must.
Us Too Much Women have been facing extermination for centuries—we are so afraid of her, terrified of her big presence, of the way she commands respect and wields the truth of her feelings.
We’ve been trying to stifle the Too Much Woman for ions—in our sisters, in our wives, in our daughters.
And even now, even today, we shame the Too Much Woman for her bigness, for her wanting, for her passionate nature.
And still. . . she thrives.
In my own world and before my very eyes, I am witnessing the reclamation and rising up of the Too Much Woman.
That Too Much Woman is also known to some as Wild Woman or the Divine Feminine.
In any case, she is me, she is you, and she is loving that she’s finally, finally getting some airtime.
If you’ve ever been called “too much,” or “overly emotional,” or “bitchy,” or “stuck up,” you are likely a Too Much Woman. And if you are. . . I implore you to embrace all that you are—all of your depth, all of your vastness; to not hold yourself in, and to never abandon yourself, your bigness, your radiance.
Forget everything you’ve heard—your too much-ness is a gift; oh yes, one that can heal, incite, liberate, and cut straight to the heart of things.
Do not be afraid of this gift, and let no one shy you away from it. Your too much-ness is Magic, is Medicine. It can change the world.
Don’t believe me? Check this: All of your favourite women, the ones who’ve made history, the ones who’ve lent their voices for change and have courageously given themselves permission to be exactly who they are. Some examples: Oprah, Ronda Rousey, Beyoncé, Kali, Misty Copeland, Janet Mock, Mary Magdalene . . . they’re all Too Much Women.
So please, Too Much Woman: Ask. Seek. Desire. Expand. Move. Feel. Be.
Make your waves, fan your flames, give us chills.
Please, rise.
We need you.
BY EV’YAN WHITNEY
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I’m a feminine energy mentor and I work with potent sisters who are holding a lot of space & are yearning for someone to hold space for them. I invite you to feel into alignment so I can hold you in a safe container to pop pockets of limitation in your consciousness & tap into your innate path of radiance, value and power. You can book a session here to find out more details. Let’s have a cuppa and a chat and see if we can create some more ease in your life…. xx I look forward to chatting with you
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I hope to see you in circle, and I hope that this week brings you so much wildness and freedom!!! Your not too much, your dreams and desires are your playground, you are enough, and its your turn…
