A sister in our tribe opened up about sexual shame... This response came through me for her... I wanted to share with you all as sexual shame can be a dark skeleton in the closet that blocks creativity & liberation... We need more amazing men & women who are completely free to embrace their pleasure with no shame in this world... Sexual Shame suck man! Its so 1950's!!!!
Hi my love... Thank u so much for sharing and being so brave!!!! Yes you are a sexual healer sister... What a gift!
Firstly I would like to give you permission to take all wrongness away from your ability or inability to 'orgasm'... Society places so much glory around the big O... Yes its wonderful to experience, but there is nothing wrong with you if you don't, or if you cant right now... Its not the be all and end all...
I see a gift and an opportunity here...
The opportunity to crack open all preconceived ideas and social pressures about how the act of sex should look, how it should end...
I hear a yearning deep within you to connect with your own pleasure... This is the yearning of the Goddess to meet with you... To greet you where you are at... To bring to the light of awareness everything that is holding you back from experiencing the expansion and potency of your being... To experience the power and potency of your unique sexual expression... And to experience the power and potency of creation herself through your sexual energy...
What if pleasure had no limit? What if it didn't LOOK like anything in particular... ? If you had no preconceived ideas about the way it SHOULD look, how would you greet your body? When would you touch her? Where would you touch her? When? How does SHE want to be touched?
Create a clear intention e.g I am a multidimensional self fullfilling pleasure warrior (teeeheee that was mine for a while, it changes, but that was a powerful permission to give myself a few years back, because of that I now have no shame in calling myself a sacred slut!! I'm claiming it, where others made me wrong and I allowed them to I no longer feel shame about the potency of my sexual energy, my history or my desires but thats another thread all together!)
You are correct in saying the healing must occur within before you share this sacred offering w others... So... I encourage you dear sister to unravel your own pleasure first by asking yourself the questions asked above... Write them down, then journal... Then take action... Start with your clear intention for your pleasure practice... Then begin to respond to your bodies yearning, how she said she wants to be touched, how you would like to touch her... Bring union in through the breath...
Notice there is a difference between intent and intense, let this come from the softness and expansion of your intent... Be the observer as you caress your body, as you indulge your pleasure...
Ask the question when resistance comes up 'who does this belong to?' ... Then thank your mind for sharing and come back to your pleasure practice... Come back to your intention for your practice...
You might feel comfortable to just stroke your belly and massage your breasts and gently tickle your yoni... Take all of the need to orgasm away... Simply be with your pleasure... It could be as simple as rubbing coconut on your body in the sun?...
Pleasure when indulged in lightness, expands, the tickle becomes a deeper exploration, it becomes an opportunity to experience your universal Self, to experience the Goddess within... It becomes a potent portal of manifestation, for self love, self nurture, therefore abundance...
Pleasure when indulged in wrongness with a bunch of 'should's and shouldn't's), we contract, the tickle becomes a playground for the mind to run off with a bunch of stories and shame and wrongness...
So I encourage you to find your pleasure today, to dive into the lightness, play and expansion that the experience of pleasure brings you... To release all wrongness about wether or not you can orgasm, fuck that off for a while and just be there with your sacred beautiful Self, the breath, and the primal force of Shakti, the Goddess alluring you into the temple of the ancient and glorious feminine essence... The temple of creation herself xxxxxx love u... Go gently my love
