Beloved,

The path of the feminine is not a path of flawless perfection. It is a path of remembering, repairing, and returning again and again to integrity.

Across generations, the threads of trust between women have been cut, tangled, or frayed. Betrayal, competition, silence, and misunderstanding have created a wound so ancient it lives in our bones: the sister wound. And yet, within this very wound lives the seed of our healing — the re-birth of the Trustworthy Feminine.

The Trustworthy Feminine is not an ideal to strive for. She is an archetype, a living current that calls us to bring our word, our body, and our heart into one alignment.

She teaches:

Do not promise what your body cannot carry. Inspiration is not obligation.
Do not fear saying no. A true no builds more trust than a false yes.
Do not abandon repair. When trust fractures, the willingness to return with honesty and humility is sacred medicine.
Do not perform perfection. Your humanness, when claimed with authenticity, is far more trustworthy than your mask.

In myth, we might imagine her as the goddess who tends the sacred hearth. She knows that a fire burns brightest when fed consistently, not with sudden bursts and then neglect. She keeps the flame alive through presence, steadiness, and care.

To embody the Trustworthy Feminine is to become a hearth-keeper of your own word. Your yes becomes a flame that others can gather around. Your no becomes a boundary that holds the circle safe. Your silence becomes honest pause, not avoidance.

And when you falter — as all humans do — the Trustworthy Feminine does not shame you. She places her hand on your heart and whispers:

“Daughter, try again. Speak truer this time. Align word and deed. You are learning the sacred art of trust.”

This is not about being liked. This is about being real.

This is not about being perfect. This is about being consistent in presence and willing in repair.

Beloved, you are not here to carry the weight of all misunderstandings. But you are here to tend your own flame of integrity, to prune away the over-promises, to root your yes and no in truth, and to remember that the trustworthy feminine lives inside of you — steady, clear, and whole.

This is the path.

This is the medicine.

This is the great weaving that heals the wound between sisters and restores trust in the feminine once more.

Journalling Prompts::

1. Word & Integrity

Where in my life do my words and actions align beautifully?
Where do they fall out of alignment?
What commitments do I make from vision or excitement, but later struggle to fulfill?

2. Yes & No

What does a true yes feel like in my body?
What does a true no feel like?
Where have I said yes when I meant no, and what did that create?

3. Presence & Repair

When I feel I’ve broken trust, what is my instinct — to withdraw, defend, avoid, or to repair?
What practices can help me return with humility when I falter?
How can I make repair sacred instead of shameful?

4. Sisterhood & Misunderstanding

How do I tend to interpret misunderstandings with other women?
Where do I project mistrust onto others because of my own past wounds?
What would it look like to choose curiosity and communication instead of assumption?

5. Embodying the Archetype

If the Trustworthy Feminine stood before me as a goddess or guide, what would she look like?
What qualities does she carry that I long to embody?
What daily action — small, simple, steady — could help me tend her flame within myself?

✧ Ritual of the Trustworthy Flame ✧

Preparation

Create a simple altar with a candle at the center. This represents the hearth fire of the Trustworthy Feminine.
Place a small bowl of water nearby to symbolize emotional truth and cleansing.
Have paper and pen ready for each woman (or yourself if done alone).

Opening

Begin with a grounding breath. Place a hand on your heart and your womb, feeling the connection between body and word.

Speak these words aloud (or adapt in your own voice):

“I gather at the hearth of the Trustworthy Feminine. Here, my words are sacred offerings. Here, my yes is holy. Here, my no is holy. Here, my integrity becomes the flame that warms the circle.”

Reflection

Reflect silently on this question:

“What is one promise I can keep to myself — something small, simple, and aligned with my true capacity?”

Choose something realistic and grounded, not grandiose. (Examples: I promise to breathe before I answer. I promise to pause before committing. I promise to honor my body’s yes and no.)

Writing

On your paper, write this promise in the form of a sacred vow:

“I vow to…”

Decorate the paper with a symbol, word, or image that feels true.

Offering to the Flame

Imagine you are sitting by the fire with the ancestors, bring your prayer, your offering and your heart to the fire of transformation:

Hold your written promise to your heart.
Dip your fingers in the water and anoint your throat (to honor the alignment of word and deed).
Place the paper near the candle, symbolically offering your vow to the Trustworthy Feminine.

(If safety allows, burn the paper as offering, or keep it folded under the candle as a reminder.)

Closing

Speak this blessing over the ritual:

“May the flame of the Trustworthy Feminine burn steady within us. May our words and deeds weave one fabric. May our promises be tended like fire — not too many, not too few, but just enough to warm the hearth of sisterhood. And when we falter, may we return with humility, repair, and love.”

Blow out the candle with the Divine Feminine Sisterhood in mind, symbolizing that the fire now burns within each heart.

Here are some of her qualities:

1. Rooted in Integrity

She says what she means and means what she says. She doesn’t promise what she cannot deliver. Her yes is real, and her no is clear.

2. Safe in Presence

The trustworthy feminine is not reactive or manipulative. She can hold space without collapsing into judgment, gossip, or betrayal. Others can exhale in her company, knowing they are seen and not used.

3. Embodied Vulnerability

She knows that trust is not built by wearing armor, but by showing up authentically. Her strength is in her openness — she is not afraid to say, “I don’t know, I’m learning, I’m human.”

4. Consistency with Flexibility

Her presence is steady like the earth, yet flowing like water. She does not disappear when things get messy, nor does she cling when it’s time to release.

5. Aligned with Soul Truth

The trustworthy feminine is not performative. She doesn’t shape-shift to win approval. Her compass is her inner knowing, her body wisdom, her alignment with love over fear.

6. Honours Connection over Competition

She doesn’t need to diminish another woman’s radiance to feel secure in her own. She trusts that abundance is cyclical, collective, and shared — not scarce.

7. Accountability with Compassion

When she falters (because we all do), she owns it, repairs it, and grows from it. She does not hide in shame or project blame outward.

Beauty filled sister, I write this post with a raw vulnerable heart, I have been hurting deeply. For a long time. The sister wound I carry is amplified this eclipse season. Roaring with an ancient cry that yearns to be herd. To be met. Here in the silence of my thoughts I write this letter. These words reach you at a time in my life where I wish to step out of this cave I have been hiding in, to press reset and enter into repair mode. This is my offering at the alter of the temple of the divine feminine. To the goddess herself, she who abides within you, within me, within all feminine beings. I hope these words and the practises I have created land in places of healing lighting the flame of consciousness and courage within you also.

It is with deep reverence and humility I write to share what I am witnessing coming into the light of consciousness. Making the unconscious conscious began from deep darkness and soul pain. I have carried a deep shame in my soul, an unshakable sadness in my bones for the state of affairs within feminine dynamics both within myself and within the collective. I have been silent in my offerings as a feminine leader because of many incongruencies in feminine collective, things that I could not put into words until now. What I am witnessing is the ‘empowered feminine’ the alpha feminine and the righteous feminine. She who roars at injustice and loudly and proudly expresses her sexuality, her opinions, her essence. All of these aspects are, and have been necessary. Yet there is something crucial missing. For many moons now I have been asking the question ‘what does it really mean to be worthy of trust’? And what does the healthy trust ‘worthy’ feminine look like? How does she show up for herself, and for her relationships?

I am deeply humbled as I answer the questions in the journal prompts above. Seeing where there is so much room for repair in relationships that have fractured in my lack of knowledge, of awareness. Where I have unconsciously caused pain in those that I love dearly. Where I can be more impeccable with my word. Ouch. I am on my knees with willingness to begin again. Simply showing up. Refreshing my commitment to HER, to you and to those that I hold dear. May we all do the courageous work of witnessing our shadows. I would love to hear from you. How did this land for you?

With love & care… Jadee xx

✧ The Trust Worthy Feminine ✧